God And Family-By Bro Moses Chua
Definition of the Family
- Is the God-ordained basic unit of society
- That have parental headship and discipline established for the purposed of enjoying a common life together through working, caring, sharing, serving and ministering to God, to others and to itself.
God established the family as a place in which man would realize the eternal purposes of divine image and dominion for which he was created (Genesis 1:26-28).
- Is the God-ordained basic unit of society
- That have parental headship and discipline established for the purposed of enjoying a common life together through working, caring, sharing, serving and ministering to God, to others and to itself.
God established the family as a place in which man would realize the eternal purposes of divine image and dominion for which he was created (Genesis 1:26-28).
The family is therefore a God-ordained place for the establishment of :
1) God-centered relationships and fellowship
2) God-like character
3) God-ordained ministry and function
4) Natural and spiritual reproduction
5) Spiritual and natural dominion.
What Happen to Mankind in the Beginning that makes an Emphasis on the Family So necessary ?
Sin in each family member !
2) God-like character
3) God-ordained ministry and function
4) Natural and spiritual reproduction
5) Spiritual and natural dominion.
What Happen to Mankind in the Beginning that makes an Emphasis on the Family So necessary ?
Sin in each family member !
Adam and Eve lost God’s image when they sinned against him.
The first family’s separation from God resulted in the following:
1) Man became a sinner ( Ps 51:5)
2) Man’s mind became defiled
(Titus 1:15; Colossians 1:21 )
3) Man became a slave to sin (Romans 6:17)
4) Man became an enemy of God (James 4:4)
5) Man became dead in trespasses and sins
(Ephesians 2:1,2)
6) Man began a course to eternal damnation
(2 Thessalonians 1:6-10)
How Did Adam’s Fall Affect Each Member of Our Family?
1) When Adam fell, we all fell for we were born in him
(Romans 5:12)
2) He no longer reproduced in his family members
the image and likeness of God.
Instead, he reproduced his own fallen image
and likeness in all of his children including all of us.
(Genesis 5:1-13; Roman 5:18-19)
What Did Sin Have on Family Life?
Sin reproduced the following family problems:
1) disrespect for and rebellion against parental authority
2) Hatred and envy among family members
3) Improper and unprincipled relationship in marriage
4) Self-centeredness and dishonesty in marriage
5) Lack of respect and love for children
on the part of parents and relatives
6) Husbands and wives having dived interests.
7) Wives usurping their husband’s authority
through deceptive means
8) Parents favoring one child over another child
9) Unfaithfulness between husband’s wives
10) A lack of proper parental discipline of children
What Is God’s Answer to All of These Family Problems?
God’s answer id Calvary, the place where Jesus died on the cross for all of men’s sins. Through the cross, God restores not only the inward spirit of man.He also redeems every area of man’s life including the family.God is not just interested in restoring individuals or restoring the church, God also desired to restore the home.
What Is Man’s Responsibility in God’s Restoration of the Home?
We MUST obey whatever God’s Word says about the role of husbands, father, wives, mothers and children.
2) Man’s mind became defiled
(Titus 1:15; Colossians 1:21 )
3) Man became a slave to sin (Romans 6:17)
4) Man became an enemy of God (James 4:4)
5) Man became dead in trespasses and sins
(Ephesians 2:1,2)
6) Man began a course to eternal damnation
(2 Thessalonians 1:6-10)
How Did Adam’s Fall Affect Each Member of Our Family?
1) When Adam fell, we all fell for we were born in him
(Romans 5:12)
2) He no longer reproduced in his family members
the image and likeness of God.
Instead, he reproduced his own fallen image
and likeness in all of his children including all of us.
(Genesis 5:1-13; Roman 5:18-19)
What Did Sin Have on Family Life?
Sin reproduced the following family problems:
1) disrespect for and rebellion against parental authority
2) Hatred and envy among family members
3) Improper and unprincipled relationship in marriage
4) Self-centeredness and dishonesty in marriage
5) Lack of respect and love for children
on the part of parents and relatives
6) Husbands and wives having dived interests.
7) Wives usurping their husband’s authority
through deceptive means
8) Parents favoring one child over another child
9) Unfaithfulness between husband’s wives
10) A lack of proper parental discipline of children
What Is God’s Answer to All of These Family Problems?
God’s answer id Calvary, the place where Jesus died on the cross for all of men’s sins. Through the cross, God restores not only the inward spirit of man.He also redeems every area of man’s life including the family.God is not just interested in restoring individuals or restoring the church, God also desired to restore the home.
What Is Man’s Responsibility in God’s Restoration of the Home?
We MUST obey whatever God’s Word says about the role of husbands, father, wives, mothers and children.
Only the word of God can direct us to God’s pattern for the Christian family. God has done His part in sending Jesus Christ to save individual family members and give the grace to contribute to their family as His word commands.
We Must therefore:
We Must therefore:
1) Repent of our sins against God and our other family members
2) Receive Christ as the Lord of Our life and of Our family
3) Search the scripture for the truth about our God-ordained role in our family.
4) Practice our God-ordained family role daily.
Through These ways,
God will restore the Home to Its
original beauty and function that He intended.
2 Corinthians 3:18
And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the spirit.
PART 2: FULFILLING OUR ROLE AS
HUSBAND &/OR FATHER
Purpose of Marriage Covenant
2) Receive Christ as the Lord of Our life and of Our family
3) Search the scripture for the truth about our God-ordained role in our family.
4) Practice our God-ordained family role daily.
Through These ways,
God will restore the Home to Its
original beauty and function that He intended.
2 Corinthians 3:18
And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the spirit.
PART 2: FULFILLING OUR ROLE AS
HUSBAND &/OR FATHER
Purpose of Marriage Covenant
Marriage originated in the mind of God.
All the rules for it, as well as its end purpose, were established by Him.
All the rules for it, as well as its end purpose, were established by Him.
God’s purpose for marriage is unity between the partners.
The bible describes marriage this way:
The bible describes marriage this way:
Genesis 2:24
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” NKJV.
Role of the Husband – Language of Love
The husband responsibility can be summarized with the letter “L”:
We will review 4 responsibilities
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” NKJV.
Role of the Husband – Language of Love
The husband responsibility can be summarized with the letter “L”:
We will review 4 responsibilities
1) Lead
2) Love
3) Loyal
4) Look Out
1) Lead
2) Love
3) Loyal
4) Look Out
1) Lead
The husband responsibility is to be a loving leader.
The basic of fulfilling his role is a man who reflects the dominance of the Holy Spirit in his life.
BIBICAL LEADERSHIP
Authority & Responsibility
Authority
This is God-given and not a deserved right.
Man needs to see that he is fulfilling his duty to God,
therefore he should exercise the authority in humility.
Responsibility
The man is held accountable to God for spiritual, emotional, and intellectual well being of his wife.
A man can be a responsible husband, but may not be a devoted husband.
a) Headship
Headship of a husband means he is the “Head-Servant”
(Matthew 20:25-27)
· This indicates responsibility
· Leadership is never forced
· Leader must be a willing servant
b) Equality of Difference
Man and woman are equal in status and spiritual but are functionally different.
c) Leadership That Wins
· Shows concern and tender loving care
· Reflects self-control, kindness or gentleness
· Respect has to be earned
· A woman respects her husband because of his character and his achievements, which are consistent with his character.
d) Decision-Making
· Husband will make final decision
· Use all available resources
· Consults his wife and takes all inputs before making a decision
· Wife submit to his decision as he is responsible before God
e) Specific Responsibilities of A leader
· He is a manager/ administrator
· He is a spiritual guide and counselor
· He is a disciplinary officer – he must be united with wife
· He is a protector from in-laws, deceivers and aggressive people
· Provider financially and emotionally
· Responsible person – he seeks and takes responsibility for his actions
The basic of fulfilling his role is a man who reflects the dominance of the Holy Spirit in his life.
BIBICAL LEADERSHIP
Authority & Responsibility
Authority
This is God-given and not a deserved right.
Man needs to see that he is fulfilling his duty to God,
therefore he should exercise the authority in humility.
Responsibility
The man is held accountable to God for spiritual, emotional, and intellectual well being of his wife.
A man can be a responsible husband, but may not be a devoted husband.
a) Headship
Headship of a husband means he is the “Head-Servant”
(Matthew 20:25-27)
· This indicates responsibility
· Leadership is never forced
· Leader must be a willing servant
b) Equality of Difference
Man and woman are equal in status and spiritual but are functionally different.
c) Leadership That Wins
· Shows concern and tender loving care
· Reflects self-control, kindness or gentleness
· Respect has to be earned
· A woman respects her husband because of his character and his achievements, which are consistent with his character.
d) Decision-Making
· Husband will make final decision
· Use all available resources
· Consults his wife and takes all inputs before making a decision
· Wife submit to his decision as he is responsible before God
e) Specific Responsibilities of A leader
· He is a manager/ administrator
· He is a spiritual guide and counselor
· He is a disciplinary officer – he must be united with wife
· He is a protector from in-laws, deceivers and aggressive people
· Provider financially and emotionally
· Responsible person – he seeks and takes responsibility for his actions
2) Love
Ephesians 5:25
“ Husband ,love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,” NKLV
Love is an unselfish concern and freely accepts
one another and seeks his or her good.
It is not a request but a command – stresses the need to exercise love. It is an act of the will.
Practical Pointers:
· Court her always – she needs affection
· Crown her – treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a
king
· Consider her - Understand her difference – how she feels, react,
thinks and functions
- Accept those differences, do not compare
- Include her in your activities
“ Husband ,love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,” NKLV
Love is an unselfish concern and freely accepts
one another and seeks his or her good.
It is not a request but a command – stresses the need to exercise love. It is an act of the will.
Practical Pointers:
· Court her always – she needs affection
· Crown her – treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a
king
· Consider her - Understand her difference – how she feels, react,
thinks and functions
- Accept those differences, do not compare
- Include her in your activities
3) Loyalty
· Loyalty is towards your wife first
· Do not accept negative comments about wife
· Talk to wife and in-laws separately
· In private assure your wife about your loyalty
4) Look Out
· Loyalty is towards your wife first
· Do not accept negative comments about wife
· Talk to wife and in-laws separately
· In private assure your wife about your loyalty
4) Look Out
· Act married when dealing with opposite sex
· Don’t talk personal issues with woman but with your wife
· When counseling include wife
· Avoid physical contact with woman
· Avoid “regular” car rides and meals with woman.
Role of the Father
To be a real father is the most perfect
description of God that any man can achieve,
because it is the ultimate revelation of God himself.
In fact every father represents God to his family. A father represents God as a 1) Prophet
2) King and
3) Priest.
· Don’t talk personal issues with woman but with your wife
· When counseling include wife
· Avoid physical contact with woman
· Avoid “regular” car rides and meals with woman.
Role of the Father
To be a real father is the most perfect
description of God that any man can achieve,
because it is the ultimate revelation of God himself.
In fact every father represents God to his family. A father represents God as a 1) Prophet
2) King and
3) Priest.
Do you as a father represent God rightly or wrongly?
a) Prophet
Represents God to family. Teaches the Word of God and takes from God what the family should be doing. Fathers can represent God in 4 ways:
1) Representing God by Example
a) Prophet
Represents God to family. Teaches the Word of God and takes from God what the family should be doing. Fathers can represent God in 4 ways:
1) Representing God by Example
A father represents God in his behaviour to his family. Is the father loving, accessible, compassionate, strong? It is easy for a child to see God this way if that is how his father is.
· Father who loves children (1 John 3:1)
Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because
It did not know Him. NKJV.
· Father who rejoices over children ( Zeph 3:17)
The Lord your God is your midst, The Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing. NKJV.
· Father’s hear turned to children (Mal 4:6)
And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse. NKJV.
But a father who is bitter, angry, critical absentee and irresponsible can misrepresent God. The child starts life with a negative idea of God.
Poor Father Image
· Father who loves children (1 John 3:1)
Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because
It did not know Him. NKJV.
· Father who rejoices over children ( Zeph 3:17)
The Lord your God is your midst, The Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing. NKJV.
· Father’s hear turned to children (Mal 4:6)
And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse. NKJV.
But a father who is bitter, angry, critical absentee and irresponsible can misrepresent God. The child starts life with a negative idea of God.
Poor Father Image
1) Too busy
2) Stern disciplinarian
3) Lack of Love
4) Poor
5) Abusive
6) Distant
7) Not interested in children or home
8) Absent most of the time
9) Irresponsible
10) Not approachable
11) Angry
12) Irritable
13) Condemning all the time, etc
2) Representing God Through Teaching
· Ephesians 6:4
2) Stern disciplinarian
3) Lack of Love
4) Poor
5) Abusive
6) Distant
7) Not interested in children or home
8) Absent most of the time
9) Irresponsible
10) Not approachable
11) Angry
12) Irritable
13) Condemning all the time, etc
2) Representing God Through Teaching
· Ephesians 6:4
And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in training and admonition of the Lord. NKJV.
· Deuteronomy 11:18
Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. NKJV.
3) Representing God With A Prophetic Voice
Saving your family in the last days or in perilous situations.
Luke 17:26 “ And as it was in the days of Noah, so it will be also in the days of the Son of Man.” NKJV.
Hebrew 11:7 “ By faith Noah, being divinely warned of things not yet seen, moved with Godly fear, prepared an ark for the saving of his household, by which he condemned the world and became heir of the righteousness which is according to faith.” NKJV.
4) Representing God In 2-way Communication
Mal 4:6 “ And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth a curse.” NKJV.
Role Of the Father ( continue ..)
· Deuteronomy 11:18
Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. NKJV.
3) Representing God With A Prophetic Voice
Saving your family in the last days or in perilous situations.
Luke 17:26 “ And as it was in the days of Noah, so it will be also in the days of the Son of Man.” NKJV.
Hebrew 11:7 “ By faith Noah, being divinely warned of things not yet seen, moved with Godly fear, prepared an ark for the saving of his household, by which he condemned the world and became heir of the righteousness which is according to faith.” NKJV.
4) Representing God In 2-way Communication
Mal 4:6 “ And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth a curse.” NKJV.
Role Of the Father ( continue ..)
b) King
1 Tim 3:4-5
“ One who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence ( for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?) NKJV
Example of Abraham
1 Tim 3:4-5
“ One who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence ( for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?) NKJV
Example of Abraham
(Taking the Kingship on behalf of God)
Gen 18:16-20
And the Lord said, “ Shall I hide from Abraham what I am doing, since Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? For I have know him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the Lord, to do righteousness and justice, that the Lord may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him. NKJV.
As a king, the man governs his family on behalf of God. He is the leader of the family.
· He leads them in God’s truth and ways
· He should behave with the Christ-centered or godly character or godly character to influence his family members
He is expected to exercise authority and to have his children respectful, obedient and under his control.
· He puts himself between the family and all pressures and dangers of life
· He provides for the family economically and supplies their needs
(1 Tim 5:8; Matt 6:33)
c) Priest
The father as a priest represents the family of God. The one unique word connected with the priesthood is the offering of sacrifice. He has the sacred duty of offering sacrifices on behalf of his family.
1) Offering thanksgiving
· The father offers thanksgiving of praise
Heb 13:15 “ Therefore by Him let us continually offer the sacrifice of praise to god, that is, the fruit of our lips, giving thanks to His name. NKJV.
· The Father Blesses His Children
Num 6:27 “ So they shall put My name on the children of Israel, and I will bless them. NKJV.
2) Making Intercession
· The father prays or intercedes for his children
Job 42:7-8 “ Now therefore, take for yourselves seven bulls and seven rams, go to my servant job, and offer up for yourselves a burnt offering; and My servant Job shall pray for you. For I will accept him, lest I deal with you according to you folly; because you have not spoken of Me what is right, as My servant job has. NKJV.
3) Making the Way of Salvation
The father is responsible to share the salvation of God with his family that this provision be received.
Ex 12: 22-24 “ And you (every father) shall take a bunch of hyssop, dip it in the blood that is in the basin, and strike the lintel and the two doorposts with the blood that is in the basin. And none of you shall go out of the door of his house and until the blood on the lintel and on the two doorposts, the Lord will pass over the door ad not allow the destroyer to come into your houses to strikes you. NKJV.
4) Exercising Faith on behalf of Their Children
The father is ac accountable to God o exercise faith for his children.
Mark 9:23-24 Jesus said to him, “ If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.” Immediately the father of the child cried out and said with tears, “Lord, I Believe; help my unbelief!” NKJV.
SUMMARY
The Christian family is to be a source of light to the lost in this world.
1) Husband and wives are to relate the way Christ relates to the church.
2) Fathers, are to build families that reflect the love of God the Father to his children – the believers.
The Bible, in the Old and New testament, reveals one primary good work God expects from His people, that is, to care for orphans widows. God’s requirements for us are summed up in one word, “LOVE”.
We are to respond in 3 ways :
i) With intimate love between an husband and wife
ii) With protective as parents for our children
iii) With the love as God’s children reaching out to those who have no one to love them – the orphans and the widows.
And the Lord said, “ Shall I hide from Abraham what I am doing, since Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? For I have know him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the Lord, to do righteousness and justice, that the Lord may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him. NKJV.
As a king, the man governs his family on behalf of God. He is the leader of the family.
· He leads them in God’s truth and ways
· He should behave with the Christ-centered or godly character or godly character to influence his family members
He is expected to exercise authority and to have his children respectful, obedient and under his control.
· He puts himself between the family and all pressures and dangers of life
· He provides for the family economically and supplies their needs
(1 Tim 5:8; Matt 6:33)
c) Priest
The father as a priest represents the family of God. The one unique word connected with the priesthood is the offering of sacrifice. He has the sacred duty of offering sacrifices on behalf of his family.
1) Offering thanksgiving
· The father offers thanksgiving of praise
Heb 13:15 “ Therefore by Him let us continually offer the sacrifice of praise to god, that is, the fruit of our lips, giving thanks to His name. NKJV.
· The Father Blesses His Children
Num 6:27 “ So they shall put My name on the children of Israel, and I will bless them. NKJV.
2) Making Intercession
· The father prays or intercedes for his children
Job 42:7-8 “ Now therefore, take for yourselves seven bulls and seven rams, go to my servant job, and offer up for yourselves a burnt offering; and My servant Job shall pray for you. For I will accept him, lest I deal with you according to you folly; because you have not spoken of Me what is right, as My servant job has. NKJV.
3) Making the Way of Salvation
The father is responsible to share the salvation of God with his family that this provision be received.
Ex 12: 22-24 “ And you (every father) shall take a bunch of hyssop, dip it in the blood that is in the basin, and strike the lintel and the two doorposts with the blood that is in the basin. And none of you shall go out of the door of his house and until the blood on the lintel and on the two doorposts, the Lord will pass over the door ad not allow the destroyer to come into your houses to strikes you. NKJV.
4) Exercising Faith on behalf of Their Children
The father is ac accountable to God o exercise faith for his children.
Mark 9:23-24 Jesus said to him, “ If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.” Immediately the father of the child cried out and said with tears, “Lord, I Believe; help my unbelief!” NKJV.
SUMMARY
The Christian family is to be a source of light to the lost in this world.
1) Husband and wives are to relate the way Christ relates to the church.
2) Fathers, are to build families that reflect the love of God the Father to his children – the believers.
The Bible, in the Old and New testament, reveals one primary good work God expects from His people, that is, to care for orphans widows. God’s requirements for us are summed up in one word, “LOVE”.
We are to respond in 3 ways :
i) With intimate love between an husband and wife
ii) With protective as parents for our children
iii) With the love as God’s children reaching out to those who have no one to love them – the orphans and the widows.
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